This morning the alarm clock went off and I went to turn it off, just like I have everyday for the past twenty years. Only this time, I knocked over one of the crystal stem glasses that my sister had given me on my tenth wedding anniversary and shattered it. I was a little upset about it, but then I realized that it really served no purpose in my life other than something nice to look at and dust once a week. It had never been used and most likely would never be used, so why get upset about it? I cleaned it up and went along my way.
We have a knack for letting things take the place of what is important. I have been reminding myself lately that things are not important, my relationship with God, my family, and my friends is what truly matters. As long as they don't shatter like the stem glass did this morning, then I can say my life is good and has a purpose. It's when one of those relationships are shattered that things matter and need to be repaired and fixed. I can't just sweep those up and go along the way.
Just something to think about today.
Peace,
Southern Ladye
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Letting Go
Today my oldest child paid the first month's rent on his first house. *sniff* I cannot believe that it was just not so long ago that I brought him home from the hospital wrapped in a knitted blanket and I was so scared that something was going to happen....
Fast forward a year or two and then I had to begin the process of letting go. First it was with learning how to walk, run, ride a bike, go to school, get his driver's license, and now.....getting married. Letting go is a process that begins from the day they leave our womb and it never gets easier. I am happy, I am excited for them, but at the same time, I am sad and I am scared... to let go and let him take his place in the adult world but I must let go so that he can become the man he needs to be.... just like his father.
Peace,
Southern Ladye
Fast forward a year or two and then I had to begin the process of letting go. First it was with learning how to walk, run, ride a bike, go to school, get his driver's license, and now.....getting married. Letting go is a process that begins from the day they leave our womb and it never gets easier. I am happy, I am excited for them, but at the same time, I am sad and I am scared... to let go and let him take his place in the adult world but I must let go so that he can become the man he needs to be.... just like his father.
Peace,
Southern Ladye
Monday, January 16, 2012
Where Does the Time Go?
Can you believe half of January is already over? I am amazed at how time seems to pick up speed. A lot has happen since my last post, which was about the wedding. Things have finally smoothed out, plans are made, and we are, can you believe this, finished with EVERYTHING for the wedding except for paying for the food! The wedding is not until May and we are ready! I LOVE being organized. It makes everything go so smoothly.
My son and his fiance have found a small place for their first home. It is little but she just thinks it is the cutest thing ever and she is happy, so he's happy, which makes ME happy. :) Someone asked him if he was going to go ahead and move in before the wedding and he told them no. They were amazed that he was willing to pay rent on something for three months but not live in it to which he said that it was THEIR house, not HIS house so he did not want to stay there before the wedding and he also told them that by renting it now, they can take their time in cleaning, moving, decorating, etc. so that when they come home from their honeymoon, everything will be brand new, sparkling clean, organized, and ready for them. I think that is wonderful!
I have been visiting flylady.net daily for the past week and she is the most organized and amazing person. She takes our disorganized, cluttered, chaotic lives and shows us how to make it organized, calm, and peaceful using baby steps and you are not overwhelmed. The first assignment was to shine your kitchen sink and I don't think my sink has ever looked so good. By creating little habits that over time become a routine, your life becomes manageable and even, dare I say it, peaceful! If you have never visited her website, you owe it to yourself to hop on over there and take a look around. http://www.flylady.net/
Peace
Southern Ladye
My son and his fiance have found a small place for their first home. It is little but she just thinks it is the cutest thing ever and she is happy, so he's happy, which makes ME happy. :) Someone asked him if he was going to go ahead and move in before the wedding and he told them no. They were amazed that he was willing to pay rent on something for three months but not live in it to which he said that it was THEIR house, not HIS house so he did not want to stay there before the wedding and he also told them that by renting it now, they can take their time in cleaning, moving, decorating, etc. so that when they come home from their honeymoon, everything will be brand new, sparkling clean, organized, and ready for them. I think that is wonderful!
I have been visiting flylady.net daily for the past week and she is the most organized and amazing person. She takes our disorganized, cluttered, chaotic lives and shows us how to make it organized, calm, and peaceful using baby steps and you are not overwhelmed. The first assignment was to shine your kitchen sink and I don't think my sink has ever looked so good. By creating little habits that over time become a routine, your life becomes manageable and even, dare I say it, peaceful! If you have never visited her website, you owe it to yourself to hop on over there and take a look around. http://www.flylady.net/
Peace
Southern Ladye
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Wedding Stress
My poor soon to be daughter in love! (That's our name for her rather than daughter in law. I stole it from a book I read on raising children!) The wedding stress is starting to get to her. We were in the bridal store yesterday getting all of the girls (10 of them in all) fitted for their dresses and it was total chaos! She and my son are getting married in May (a very popular month in our neck of the woods, LOL) and I think every girl and her mother were there trying on bridal dresses. Our poor little consultant was run to the earth trying to fit ten giggling girls and then one of the mothers was unhappy with the color choice of her daughter's dress for the wedding AND she didn't want to use the bridal store for alterations, which my DIL told everyone they were going to do. I got to missing her (my DIL) and found her in the corner, crying. She'll be OK but she admitted that it is starting to stress her out a bit. I laughed to myself and thought, "Sweetie, we haven't even got started, yet!" Then she and I spend the afternoon shopping for the reception, which I am in charge of. (She's making such a wonderful effort to include the mother of the groom, even though she doesn't have to, which I just think is grand.) We then went to my mother's for the evening, which was her first time to be with all of the family, including my brother, whom just got home from his job.
So, we had a busy day and the wedding is starting to shape up nicely. Hard to believe that my son is old enought to get married, but he is and I have to admit, I think he chose well. Of course, he spent time praying about it and counseled with our wonderful pastor, who was in agreement. That's what makes the difference: knowing you have found the one God intended for you to have. I know I did and I am so thankful, each and every day, for him.
Peace,
Southern Ladye
So, we had a busy day and the wedding is starting to shape up nicely. Hard to believe that my son is old enought to get married, but he is and I have to admit, I think he chose well. Of course, he spent time praying about it and counseled with our wonderful pastor, who was in agreement. That's what makes the difference: knowing you have found the one God intended for you to have. I know I did and I am so thankful, each and every day, for him.
Peace,
Southern Ladye
Monday, January 2, 2012
Happy New Year!
I am looking forward to a wonderful year. I have spent the last few days reflecting on the past year and what I would like to do differently. Now it is time to put that plan into action! I am a great planner, reflecting, and organizer but sometimes I have a problem actually carrying out the plan. I have promised myself to do better with that this year because the best developed plan doesn't mean anything if it's not carried out to the fullest. I think I do that because I am such a perfectionist and if it doesn't go exactly as planned, I have a hard time coping with it so therefore, I just don't do it because I don't like failing or having to switch gears and go at it a different way. I am committing to changing that this year.
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